It was advice from preschool teachers about how to help your child listen, share and learn. These are the ones I found the most useful and will be implementing in my home:
- Grab their attention with a bell, clap or song.
- Make eye contact: get to their level
- Ask your child to repeat an instruction
- Use a timer to give fair time with a toy
- Buy multiples of items like crayons
- Help them decide on something else to do: Do you think you can play with a ball while you wait your turn?
- Stick to a routine- like picking up toys after dinner everyday.
- Give advance warning: "bathtime in 5 minutes"
- Show them how: "Clean up your toys", means nothing to a child, but "Put your legos in the right box." is clearer.
- Make and "I'll be right back" sign for a child to put near a block castle, or unfinished puzzle, so that mom know(and other siblings) he/she is not done yet.
- Ask "what" instead of "why"... eg. "What do you think your friend is feeling?"
- Encourage "chill-out" instead of time out.
- Comfort the hurt child first. Deflects the attention the instigator may have wanted off of them, so they see that bad behavior does not get attention.
Love and listening,
Kerry, the Momster